Getting to grips with Gen Z slang – as an elder millennial
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I was born in 1982. I did not grow up with the internet. We didn’t have a computer at home until the mid-90s. I got my first phone when I went to university in the year 2000 — a huge brick of a contraption from Virgin Mobile.
So, now I’ve outed myself as a card-carrying millennial, it won’t come as any surprise to you that Gen Z slang is a little foreign to me.
We were young and hip once too
It’s not like we millennials didn’t have our own set of expressions. Every generation does. It’s how we differentiate ourselves from the older generation and signal our youth, freshness and general belongingness to each other. The 90s, for example, were the decade of such slang gems as “awesome”, “mega” and “word”.
However: once you hit adulthood, unless your job demands fluency in the youth-speak of the day, you should probably drop it all from your vocabulary. Apart from letting slip the occasional “awesome”, I think I did a good job of this.
That is, until I switched careers to digital marketing.
Getting to grips with Gen Z slang
Digital marketing is a field largely populated with younger millennials and Gen Z. Most of whom are about 10 years younger than I am. As a former professional translator, I know better than anyone how language is a dynamic thing that is constantly developing. But parking my tanks on this bit of Gen Z’s lawn really has been like moving to a different country.
And, just like settling down in a foreign country, you soon find yourself picking up the odd phrase or two. My challenge is to move with the times without seeming like some embarrassing middle-aged aunt trying to be down with the kids (a “try-hard”). It’s a fine line.
These are the Gen Z slang phrases that I’m quite fond of…and might even dare to utter myself every now and again. Maybe.
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1. “I feel seen”
I recently found myself using this phrase in response to a particularly enjoyable lunch where the conversation flowed and my company a) asked me lots of questions about myself, b) maintained good (but not scary) levels of eye contact, and c) did not look at their smartphone once during our lunch.
The fact that this kind of attentive, non-distracted behaviour was so shocking as to provoke comment shows how far we have lost sight of our own manners and social mores in the digital age. We now consider it an event when someone pays more attention to their opposite number at the dinner table than to their phone. How sad.
Alas, language is a reflection of the times and circumstances in which we live. And so — whereas 20 years ago, we would probably have just said “X was great company, very polite and an excellent conversationalist”, we now muse rather breathlessly about how “X was great company, and was fully present in the moment…I felt seen”.
2. Cooked
This is one I do actually use quite often, and not in relation to anything that I’m doing in the kitchen.
In Gen Z slang, “cooked” can mean several things. Mostly, it means being exhausted, overwhelmed, or physically/mentally drained. But it can also mean being in a state of failure, defeat, or trouble (“we’re cooked”), or being intoxicated.
The related phrase “let them cook” means to allow someone to demonstrate their talent without interruption. Anton Daniels, a YouTuber from Detroit who I like to catch up with every now and again, often says that women who are talking about something with particular verve or passion are “cooking”, or even “cooking with fish grease”.
3. Crashing out
When I say that someone is “crashed out”, it means that they have collapsed on the bed or sofa to rest. “To crash at someone’s place” means to stay at someone’s house or apartment on a temporary basis, probably spontaneously, like after a night out.
When Gen Z says that someone is “crashing out”, it means that they are going crazy, are suffering an emotional outburst or have lost their composure (“People were crashing out in the comments section…”)
4. To slay
A word which I felt I had to sidle up to slowly. I read it for the first time in a tweet about the wedding of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle in 2018:
“And here is Amal Clooney, slaying in canary yellow.”
The word was so perfect, so apt. It caught to a tee the vision of the lovely Mrs. Clooney, striding confidently into the royal wedding venue, looking like — well — a queen. (To meet the actual Queen, who, as we can all agree, slayed pretty much constantly for 70 years.)
I felt an immediate affinity to the word…but was intimidated. Could I, a 36-year-old who used to work at the Austrian Financial Markets Authority, appropriate it without coming across as completely absurd?
Some words are like clothes: you have to grow into them. Five years later, the mists of time have largely closed over my dry-as-dust lawyer past and I feel like a relaxed, confident and — dare I say it? — cool 41-year-old.
I’m slaying.
5. He/she ate (and left no crumbs)
Has the same meaning as “slaying”. When someone “ate”, they have put in a peerless performance, done something amazingly well. If that person “ate, and left no crumbs”, then there is no conceivable way that they could have improved upon that excellence.
6. Valid
Sorry, Gen Z — we millennials were the original pioneers of “valid”, meaning “right”, “true” or “correct”. Every now and again, if someone metes out a particular brutal truth or dollop of tough love, I still allow myself a “harsh, but valid”. A phrase which I know I was using in the 90s — while Gen Z were still swimming around in amniotic fluid or were mere twinkles in their parents’ eyes.
7. I’m here for it
I’m very fond of this. In Britain at least, we used to say “I’m up for it” — but this is so much better. It’s got such verve, such daring, such sass! I guess you could say that, as far as this natty little phrase is concerned, I’m here for it.
8. Rent-free
Gen Z really did hit the ball out of the park with this one. “Don’t let [him/her/them] live in your head rent-free” is such a perfect way of discrediting that daft fixation on someone who doesn’t deserve so much of your attention, energy and thought-power.
Both millennials and Gen Z live inside our own heads more than any generation that went before. Some might say we are self-obsessed. Whatever label you give it: if we are going to be inside our own heads so much, we need to exercise firm control over who and what is in there at any one time.
Serve that undeserving occupant an eviction notice, post-haste and pour your energies into more enriching activities.
9. Brat
According to British singer Charli XCX, “brat” means “that girl who is a little messy and likes to party…maybe says dumb things sometimes…who feels herself but maybe also has a breakdown but parties through it…is very honest, very blunt, a little bit volatile.”
The word went so stratospheric as to reach my old millennial brain in the summer of 2024, when Kamala Harris was officially declared “brat” as part of her doomed but “joyful” bid for the presidency.
Well, it seems not even the most potent Gen Z slang can replace a coherent political platform, the ability to speak extemporaneously on any subject for more than 10 seconds, and the capacity to come across as halfway competent.
I guess voters just weren’t convinced that a girl who is “a little messy” and “says dumb things” would be good presidential material. Who’d have thought it?
10. Cringe
If any members of Gen Z are reading this right now, they might be thinking something along the lines of: “Oh my God, a millennial trying too hard to be young and hip. I bet she wears those ankle socks too. Just so cringe“.
In short: “cringe” is to Generation Z what “cringeworthy” was to Gen X and millennials. I’m not sure where that “-worthy” went. It seems to have fallen into a linguistic black hole at some point in the twenty-tens, never to be uttered again.
11. OK, boomer
Here’s one where millennials and Gen Z have got considerable overlap and solidarity.
Admittedly, I’m a geriatric millennial, which means having some serious boomer inflections. I’m rocking that hybrid generation chic, you know? But both our generations know the feeling of disconnect from the boomer generation and how talking to them can sometimes feel like you are trying to communicate with another species.
They can harp on about how hard 15% interest rates were in the 1980s. And how they never got to eat avocado on toast or hummus. But I see your post-war food rationing and 1970s oil shocks and I raise you coming of age in an age of perma-crisis and looking down the long barrel of “the decline of the West, no home ownership, spiralling rents and precarious gig-type employment for the rest of our lives”. Oh yes, and the small matter of dealing with the effects of climate change and possible civilisational collapse.
We win.
That’s it boomers, sit back in that huge house you bought for 3 strawberries back in 1975, and allow us to fund your massive pensions which you started drawing at 58. Our old age won’t look like that.
12. Unc
The fact that I, as a geriatric millennial, am writing this article probably makes me “unc”. Meaning that I am old, outdated, and out of touch with current trends. Guilty as charged! This word is usually used to rip on older men, but it can be stretched to fit anyone who is older and trying a bit too hard to fit in with the younger generations.
13. Low-key
Possibly my favourite Gen Z slang term – I use it alot. And to be honest, when you get to your 40s, everything you do is low-key. You just don’t have the energy for anything else.
Low-key holidays, low-key birthday celebrations, low-key hen nights. And my goodness, isn’t everyone quietly thrilled when their friends announce that their wedding is going to be “absolutely low-key”?
In the fullness of time, Gen Z will come to fully appreciate this sentiment.
14. Situationship
Situationships are the kind of pseudo-romantic nightmare that your 20s are often blighted with and, if you are unfortunate, your 30s too. In the worst case scenario, you never get beyond them.
A situationship is an in-betweeny, non-defined, non-declared relationship. One where you are definitely not “in the friend zone” because you are sleeping together (or at least having a physical rummage on the regular in various states of undress), but you aren’t a proper couple yet. Situationships are suspended in this middle ground and could mean “friends with benefits” but could also catch an early-stage serious relationship which neither party is willing to slap a label on yet.
The word “situationship” didn’t exist back in the days when situationships were a feature of my life. But by God, did they stress me out. Too little clarity, too much uncertainty, too little indication of where this is going. I’m glad to be in a long-term committed relationship where I don’t have to deal with sh*t like that anymore.
God, I love my 40s.
15. Posting Ws/Ls
A “W” is a win, a success or an achievement. Conversely, an “L” is a defeat, loss or misfortune. So, posting your Ws and Ls online is to post about the good stuff and the bad stuff that has happened to you in your life. Which could amount to TMI…
16. Baka
Possibly a bit off-piste, this one. I randomly picked it up from the New York podcaster Shoe0nHead who is not part of my usual online repertoire but, hey, I like to keep an open mind (and she seems to trigger a lot of people on Reddit which is s sure-fire indicator of having an iota of common sense).
Baka is a Japanese word which means “idiot” or “fool” and is used with the same meaning among some Gen Z, both as an insult but also in a teasing way.
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